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Domain name Basics

Choosing the right Domain Name takes some thought and consideration. 8 tips below to make sure you choose the right domain name for your website!

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1. Use Your Name, most likely You are the Brand:  (avoid cute or product brand names in your site, exp. melissalovesmascara.com might work today, but maybe next month youre into building a fitness business, it will be harder to get continuity with your following)  If you have a common, easy to spell name, then take it. If its not available, try adding the to the begining (theyourname). If your name is uncommon, easily misspelled or mispronounced, then you may want to rethink this option.

2. Make it Easy to Type : You want your domain name to be easy for people to type, especially if they need to remember it off the top of their head. Don’t include slang terms, word’s that can easily be misspelled like “ your “ and “ you’re “, and be cautious of using double letter words , especially if you are combining multiple words in your domain.

3. Keep it short: Most rememberable domain names don’t go beyond 3 words. If you do add on any additional words, keep them short.  (exp Toomanywordsareconfusing.com vs shortandsimple.com…makes sense?)

4. Use SEO Friendly Keywords: Use words related to your business and what you offer and serve. Not only does this help target your audience, but it will increase your rank on search engines. Example: You own a doughnut shop in Austin, Your domain should target your location and explain what you serve.

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5. Avoid Numbers and Hyphens: Domain names that include numbers, dashes and hyphens are easy to misspell and you’re always having to remind people it’s the #3 not the word three.

6. Research it: Make sure the domain you picked isn’t trademarked, copy written or being used by another company. This can lead to legal issues and result in your website being terminated. (just because the domain name may be available does not mean the name isnt already trademarked)

7. Use the Appropriate Name Extension: .com is the most widely used name extension, but also look at other name extensions like .co, .info, .net, .org, .biz, .me, .tv . Make sure you choose the right one for your business or service as they all have different meanings and should be placed appropriately.

8. Dont wait: If you do finally come across a domain name that is available and suits all of your credentials, then buy it asap! It may take a few attempts to find the right one that works, but when you find it, you’ll know and you won’t want to sit on it very long! Keep in mind you can have multiple domain names under the same website server, so get them while they’re cheap!

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Fashion inspiration

What drives you to Shop? 

It’s spring…or is it still winter (here in the East it’s a daily surprise!) The hardest part about season change is wardrobe (& allergies)…I suggest Layers! You can bundle up in the early morning & after the sun goes down, but you can somewhat disrobe when the sun is warm & bright.

Or are you shopping because you’ve built yourself a new life?  You NEED a change! You’ve lost weight, had a baby, changed your mind set, got a new boyfriend or job, had a birthday, going on vacation, business trip, high school reunion (it’s 25 yrs this year for me…absolutely not possible!) wedding, anniversary party, or because it’s Tuesday or any day that has an A in it? Lol 😉

My biggest tip for shopping…Have an idea but not a plan.

WHAT?  When you have a plan, it’s specific (looking for a short red dress w no flowers or a red Coach purse, something very specific) It’s a true outline of your desired results. But when you have an idea, it’s vague,  somewhat guided, but somewhat random!

How to get inspired ? scour the magazines or celebrity gossip mags, fashion shows (E!, Entertainment Tonite, Fashion Police, Inside Edition, etc), window shop, people watch, watch how things are put together…then hit the Internet or the mall. Shop Amazon here…

Why? I believe it’s important to set yourself up for success. When you’re being too specific, the fashion-verse may not work with you. You may be ahead (or behind) the trend. You may be inspired by NewYork or Paris Spring 2016 fashion week…but it doesn’t hit your store shelves til fall 2017, lol. (My small town friends, I feel your pain!)  You may end up disappointed, no one wants that 😜🤔😂

You’re inspired, now what? I’m all about Mix & Match! I mostly buy separates. It allows me variety & multi-use. Below you’ll see a bunch of ideas, mostly same color combos. You will see that you could mix any of these combinations together. You can dress up any of the casual outfits w some heels or a nice pair of boots and some jewelry or a great handbag.

Build it slowly!! Come now people, you can’t blow the budget all in one day! That’s another reason I love separates. I could buy that awesome leopard scarf, skinny blue denim & awesome boots this week, pair it with an already owned tshirt (white black red tan etc) Next month, I add the leather jacket & black jeans and a new handbag…voila, I got 3-4 new combinations. I will continue to add to the collection…I will continue to add other color combos to expand my options. Before you know it, you’ll need to start to purge.  (Did you know those awesome retail stores only want items that are less than 1 year old? You need to Luther sooner than you think to recoup any $$)

 

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Why stopping, got me started on my forever journey 

It’s March 1, 2016. And the journey has begun…well re-begun.

What the heck?  You started over? What are you talking about, Holly? You see, I have spent the last nearly 6 years focused on a weightloss & fitness journey, I have shared most of my steps along the way, but something happened.

I took the month of February off from my fitness & health journey, sort of.  I typically workout 5-6 days per week for myself, I had committed to 60 days of Hammer and Chisel Beachbody Challenge (over 25k people had made this commitment). I also typically teach 4-8 60min fitness classes per week. I had made a vow to exercise in some form for #365 in 2016. As  i stacked these goals…it seemed like no problem. I love exercise, I love the feeling when I’m done, I’m nicer, more creative, more energetic…all of which I truly believe! But at day 28 I hit the wall. It had started before that but on Jan 28…I cried bc I no longer enjoyed working out. It had become a chore, an assignment, a requirement…and I hated it. Prior to this, I would find excuses to workout, it was my procrastination destination, it was my “meeting” when I knew I just wanted a drink. It was my retreat, my joy, my mood booster…until January 28! On this day, I felt like a fraud. I felt I wasnt living my life, I wasnt honoring ME.

I realized I was forcing myself to meet some ridiculous goal. A goal, I had been inspired by another fitness professional to accomplish, if she could do it…then I could to. But why? Why is always the question for me! Why? I wanted to inspire others to make a daily commitment to themselves, to find joy in moving their body. But I was hating it…if I was hating it, then how can I expect others to do it? Good question, huh?

I was committed to feeling better but was my health improving? I certainly didn’t (don’t) look like it. I had other accomplishments…I was getting so strong, I was a smaller more compact version of myself, I was seeing some muscle definition, I had endurance & stamina, but I wasn’t having ANY scale victories. I know the scale isn’t everything, but it certainly is something. I have spent about 1 yr plateaued at 196/7lbs, I’ve been up & down 10-15lbs, over the past 2-3yrs. And I’ve realized I have been hurting myself, my refusal to completely change my eating habits wasn’t working. My body was accustomed to the activities I was doing. I was also suffering from sleep deprivation, adrenal fatigue & quite possibly hypothyroidism.  So my body was working against me. My hormones are out of whack, my diet & cravings have been all over the place, I under eat more often than not. I was suffering and I needed to change!

SO I MADE IT! I made an executive decision…

I made a drastic change! I STOPPED what I was doing.REALLY? Yep, I had been doing research that was saying, that the minute people started focus on losing weight & being active was the same minute that obesity began to rise. So, I stopped focusing. I was aware of what I was eating, but I wasn’t restricting myself. I started paying attention to my body. I started eating only when I was hungry, I kept track of how my body reacted to the food/foods I seemed to crave…many times, I found myself with an upset stomach or a need for a nap. I started to notice what caused bloating & gas. I thought about how many vegetables I was consuming…was I eating enough (or any). And where did those foods fall into creating energy for me (macros vs calories). I learned a lot by stopping.

And today, was the day I started over…I made the choice to make a lifestyle change. Today was the first day to be true to me, to create my own path, not follow in the shadows of others.  Which also required  me to really look at myself. Like really look in the mirror at myself…truth is, I dont like what I see. I know that what I was doing wasnt serving me. I know even better now that my exercise program and development is only part of the equation. I have to give more attention to properly fueling my body so it can build the muscle so I can see the results I am working toward.

Wont you join me for my journey? I have decided to go back to one of my favorite workouts ever…Chalean Extreme. I am going to lift heavy at least 3 days per week, I am going to do a cardio strength interval workout at least 2 days per week, Im going to give myself permission to take at least 1 no more than 2 rest days. I am going to increase my food intake and Im going to eat more vegetables than anything else. I will increase my proteins to health lean meats, grassfed & organic. I will focus on eating healthy fats…avocado, coconut oil, grass fed butter. I will reduce my carbs to non starchy vegtables and Ill avoid breads, pasta and processed sugars.

And the journey goes on…

Day 2    The journey continues…   And the journey goes on…      Gaining momentum…

 

 

 

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Introverted? Is that bad?

I will admit, I am an introvert. And for many years I thought it was a bad thing. I thought that meant I couldn’t be a real leader, I couldn’t really be successful, I thought I was missing a piece of the puzzle. I also thought I was judgement, anti-social sometimes bratty, all around just weird.

Maybe that’s why I’m so fascinated with becoming better, learning more about me, understanding why people do what they do. I’m sensitive & emotional, I care deeply & sometimes that’s taken as bossy. But now I know…I’m not alone. There are people out there just like me

 Here is a podcast from my girl, Chalene Johnson explaining more about Introverts and why they have an amazing opportunity as entrepreneurs!

What if you’re thinking, you really like people, or in certain situations you totally love being the center of attention…believe me, you’re probably still an introvert but maybe your an extroverted introvert deceived in this article Extrovert introvert

My favorite listening device…Headphones!!! Noise cancelling

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Fit to fat to fit

Have you watched that new show called Fit to Fat to Fit ? It’s a true story about a personal trainer, Drew Manning, (listen to a podcast from the man himself, listen to the one from his wife, podcast) who realized he really didn’t know how hard it is to be Fat. He didn’t have empathy…he’s not different, many fitness professionals really don’t get it. To them exercise is a way of life…I get that but that’s not everyone.

If you’ve never struggled, you really don’t understand how hard it is to move & commit & avoid temptation. It really is a horrible internal struggle. You will pretend to be fine, you laugh, you smile, you dress your best to cover your most hated spots, you justify that meal/dessert or treat…and the self sabotage is far worse than any external sabotage. It’s awful! And many people don’t understand.
This show is that exact journey! The trainers have this mindset…most have said Obesity is a choice, it’s a result of laziness & lack of self love. Then the trainers spend 16weeks getting fat! They go thru a terrible struggle trying to gain the weight. They eat as their clients do, they are not able to work out, they experience the emotional struggles in the process. They put their health in jeaopardy.  The clients are sad & scared for their trainers. They also feel an immense sense of responsibility to succeed bc of the pain their trainer will go through.

Then, they spend 16 weeks together getting fit. The trainer has to do the same workout they put their client through. The trainers mind hasn’t accepted that their body will not perform the same…in fact, their first workout is a humbling experience. They finally feel how quickly atrophy sets in, and that’s with only 4 months of no exercise. Imagine what a lifetime with no movement feels like. At a certain point, it’s no longer about laziness & excuses…it’s painful. They finally have a new appreciation for the weakened body. But their mind isn’t completely accepting this as fate…the trainers KNOW they can achieve it, they just have new appreciation for their clients journey. They have a new approach to making that gap for their clients smaller! The clients aren’t convinced they can achieve it…their coach is there to push them.

It’s a great program! Here’s a sneak peek…
I’m on a similar journey…sort of. I got to a point where the demons were taking over, I was letting outside influences deter me, I was feeling like I just couldn’t achieve, I wasn’t accepting the reality…I am the big girl w bad choices I am not lazy but I’m not making advances. So…I’m taking 4 weeks off…much more could be a death trap for me. However, I have made the commitment to take the month of February off…mostly. I have 5 classes scheduled this month. I’m 17 days in…and I hate how I feel! I feel gross & lethargic, unmotivated & bloated. I’ve taken naps almost everyday. Im less social, less happy, less energetic, less positive. Im hating this process. I’m eating what I want. And I realize a lot of what I was “deprived” of, doesn’t even taste that good. It’s weird, I craved it, I ate some, it wasn’t curing the crave…and it wasn’t feeling good. I can definitely not eat what doesn’t taste good. Maybe, Im breaking habits. I’ll keep you posted. Here’s what in doing instead of exercise…Kitchen essentials I’m cooking, lots and lots of cooking. I’m finding the act of making food satisfies my need to eat the food. Lol.

What’s your journey? Where are you? I’m getting serious again in 10 days…wanna join me? Accountability partners wanted

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Train your Brain

The most under-developed muscle is the Brain. It’s a muscle I often ignore, when it comes to reading…I’m not the best reader but I know it will help me be a better person, leader, wife, sister, daughter…person! I dont believe we have a finish line, a personal growth education graduation or a …when it comes to our education or personal improvement. Im not saying Im not good or good enough, but I am saying is I can be better! I believe the quote is if “you’re not growing, you’re dieing!”

Im not the best student, not because I can’t retain information or pay attention, bc I can! In fact, I have a great memory, I have an amazing ability to recite things exactly…if I either LOVE what I’m learning or the person teaching, has captured my attention. I’m very practical, so personal growth education, is relevent. I want to be the best version of me!

The problem then becomes, where to start…So many books, So little time. Ive recently found Audible.com which is an amazing way to get your personal development, is to listen to it! Of course, you can get some of the books for cheaper on amazon or kindle…but will you actually READ them? Im serious, I have a million books on my shelves but I have a tough time turning the pages or finding the time to sit and stay focused. However listening to it, really works for me… (get your 2 free books, plus discounts on other purchases, use the link above)

Ive compiled a list…its a long list, not in any particular order. These are for personal mental, business and spiritual growth. (Ill make a list of funny silly somewhat mindless books…I think I learn from these too. You can learn anything from anybody, just pay attention)

 1. Eat That Frog!: 21 Great Ways to Stop Procrastinating and Get More Done in Less Time, Brian Tracy
2. Failing Forward,  John Maxwell
3. The Slight Edge: Secret to a Successful Life, , Jeff Olson
4. Go Pro – 7 Steps to Becoming a Network Marketing Professional, Eric Worre
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5. Giant Steps: Small Changes to Make a Big Difference, Anthony Robbins
6. Fearless: Imagine Your Life Without Fear, Max Lucado
7. The Entrepreneur’s Solution: The Modern Millionaire’s Path to More Profit, Fans & Freedom, Mel H. Abraham
8. Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook: How to Tell Your Story in a Noisy Social World, Gary Vaynerchuk
9. The Charge: Activating the 10 Human Drives That Make You Feel Alive, Brendon Burchard
10. PUSH: 30 Days to Turbocharged Habits, a Bangin’ Body, and the Life You Deserve!, Chalene Johnson
11. The Compound Effect: Jumpstart Your Income, Your Life, Your Success, Darren Hardy
12.  Superlife, Darin Olien
13. It Starts with Food: Discover the Whole30 and Change Your Life in Unexpected Ways, Dallas Hartwig

14. The Go-Giver: A Little Story About a Powerful Business Idea, Bob Burg

15.  No Excuses!: The Power of Self-Discipline, Brian Tracy
16.  Good Leaders Ask Great Questions: Your Foundation for Successful Leadership, John C. Maxwell
17. The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, John C. Maxwell
18. Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!, Anthony Robbins
19. Go for No! Yes is the Destination, No is How You Get There, Richard Fenton
20. The Flip Flop CEO, Janine Finney
21. You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life, Jen Sincero
22. Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action, Simon Sinek
23. School of Greatness, Lewis Howes
24. Know your Worth,  Jessica Vaughn
25. Magic of Thinking Big, David Schwartz
26. The Entrepreneur Roller Coaster: Why Now Is the Time to #Join the Ride, Darren Hardy
27. The Big Picture: 11 Laws That Will Change Your Life, Tony Horton
28.  The Thank You Economy, Gary Vaynerchuk
29. The 15 Invaluable laws of Growth, Live them and reach your Potential, John Maxwell
30. 5: Where Will You Be Five Years from Now?, Dan Zadra
31. 7: How Many Days of the Week Can Be Extraordinary?, Dan Zadra
32. Every Day I Fight, Stuart Scott
33. Training Camp: What the Best Do Better Than Everyone Else, Jon Gordon
34. Fearless & Fabulous: 10 Powerful Strategies for Getting Anything You Want in Life, Cara Alwill Leyba
35. Make Your Own Lunch: How to Live an Epically Epic Life Through Work, Travel, Wonder, and (Maybe) College, Ryan Porter
36. The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life (Before 8AM), Hal Elrod
37. The Barefoot Executive: The Ultimate Guide for Being Your Own Boss & Achieving Financial Freedom, Carrie Wilkerson
38. The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure, Grant Cardone
39. Put on Your Crown: Life-Changing Moments on the Path to Queendom, Queen Latifah
40. One: How Many People Does It Take to Make a Difference?, Dan Zadra
41. The Rhythm of Life: Living Every Day with Passion and Purpose, Matthew Kelly
42. The Miracle Morning for Network Marketers: Grow Yourself FIRST to Grow Your Business FAST, Hal Elrod
43. Lead… for God’s Sake!: A Parable for Finding the Heart of Leadership, Todd G. Gongwer
44. Life’s Golden Ticket: An Inspirational Novel, Brendon Burchard
45. Outliers: The Story of Success, Malcolm Gladwell
46. You Can You Will: 8 Undeniable Qualities of a Winner, Joel Osteen
47. The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team with Positive Energy, Jon Gordon
48. Peaks and Valleys: Making Good And Bad Times Work For You–At Work And In Life, Spencer Johnson
49. Help Thanks Wow: The Three Essential Prayers, Anne Lamott
50. Gift from the Sea, Anne Morrow Lindbergh
51. Burn Brightly Without Burning Out: Balancing Your Career With The Rest Of Your Life, Dick Biggs
52. Unlimited: How to Build an Exceptional Life, Jillian Michaels
53. EntreLeadership: 20 Years of Practical Business Wisdom from the Trenches, Dave Ramsey
54. 10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works, Dan Harris
55. The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari: A Fable About Fulfilling Your Dreams & Reaching Your Destiny, Robin S. Sharma
56. The Happiness Project: Or Why I Spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun, Gretchen Rubin
57. Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being, Wisdom, and Wonder, Arianna Huffington
58. The Happiness of Pursuit: Finding the Quest That Will Bring Purpose to Your Life, Chris Guillebeau
59. Break Out!: 5 Keys to Go Beyond Your Barriers and Live an Extraordinary Life, Joel Osteen
60. The Dream Manager, Matthew Kelly
61. Jesus Calling: Enjoying Peace in His Presence, Sarah Young
62. Beach Money: Creating Your Dream Life Through Network Marketing, Jordan Adler
63. How we started Juicy Couture for $200 and Turned It into a Global Brand, Pamela Skaist-Levy
64. Why Not You?: 28 Days to Authentic Confidence, Valorie Burton
65. Who Moved My Cheese?, Spencer Johnson
66. The First Phone Call from Heaven, Mitch Albom
67. Have a Little Faith: a True Story, Mitch Albom
68. The Five People You Meet in Heaven, Mitch Albom
69. #GIRLBOSS, Sophia Amoruso
70. The Art of Racing in the Rain, Garth Stein
71. First Steps to Wealth, Dani Johnson
73. Start, Punch Fear in the Face, Jon Acuff
74.  Motivation Manifesto, Brendon Buchard
75. The Power of Habit, Why we do what we do in Life and Business, Charles Duhigg
76. Embrace the Struggle: Living Life on Life’s Terms, Zig Ziglar
77. I’m Too Young for This!: The Natural Hormone Solution to Enjoy Perimenopause, Suzanne Somers
78. 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey
79. Jumpstart Your Growth, John Maxwell
80. Five Levels of Leadership, John Maxwell
81. Motivation Manifesto, Brendon Buchard
82. Thinking Big, Brian Tracy
83. Breaking Free, Beth Moore
84. When Godly People Do Ungodly Things: Arming Yourself in the Age of Seduction, Beth Moore
85. Get out of the Pit, Beth Moore

 

 

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Beachbody On demand…

Live stream Beachbody’s library of thousands of workout schedules, materials and dvds.   

As of today (Jan 2016) You can now just BUY digital access to most all the NewIMG_3299est programs, others are included int the Club Membership

What the heck am I talking about?

Is this new? I mean, youve been able to stream live workout videos from Netflix or game system or use the on demand feature on your TV, but this feature is BRAND NEW to Beachbody!
I have no idea what the reason was that the company decided to delay the release of this feature until now…and I dont really care, why now. Im just freaking excited that its available. I could be against this feature because, I own nearly every program out there. And for $0.44/day I have access to hundreds (i heard 1500) of Beachbody dvds, manuals & food guides on line. The money I could have saved!?

WHAT???

yep, on line  on demand! As long as you have wifi you have Beachbody in demand (#bod) Anywhere, anytime…in the office, on your break in the park, at the gym, at your house on the patio or in the garage, wherever you go!  No more Excuses! You know how often Ive said, if I wouldve grabbed the right dvd I cld be doing that or the one, or the one I want to do skips (Im really hard on everything I own) and Im annoyed! NOT ANYMORE!!!!  I can just log in from my phone,
kindle. Tablet, iPad, laptop anything! Put in my headphones/blue tooth & push play!

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Whats included?

• P90X & P90X Deluxe • P90X2® & P90X2 Deluxe • P90X3® & P90X3 Deluxe • P90X ONE on ONE® Volume 1 • INSANITY & INSANITY Deluxe • INSANITY: THE ASYLUM® Volume 1 • TurboFire® • Brazil Butt Lift & Brazil Butt Lift Deluxe • ChaLEAN Extreme® • 10-Minute Trainer® • Hip Hop Abs®clx results 797

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*New content and workouts will be added monthly, so there’s always something new to try, and you’ll never get bored!
Club membership also gives you “insider access” to hot releases, so you can sample a workout before you buy the DVD program: • 21 Day Fix® “Total Body Cardio Fix” • 21 Day Fix EXTREME® “Plyo Fix Extreme” • PiYo® “Sweat” • FOCUS T25® “ALPHA Cardio” • INSANITY MAX:30™ “Sweat Intervals” • Body Beast® “Build: Chest & Tris” • P90® “Sculpt A”

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5 SUPERFOODS YOU SHOULD BE EATING

Imagine that the foods you were eating today were actually lowering your cholesterol, promoting healthy fat loss, reducing your risk of heart disease and cancer – and even putting you in a better mood!

What is a “Super Food” Foods that contain an abundance of essential nutrients, are easy to find – and easy to cook – top my list for foods with “super” benefits – and will fuel your body with everything it needs for optimal health.

Here are the top 5 foods that I include in my daily (and/or weekly) diet, some tips for including them in yours, and why they are so awesome for our health!

10181807_s1. Blueberries

Blueberries have repeatedly been ranked in the U.S. diet as having one of the highest antioxidant capacities among all fruits, vegetables, spices and seasonings (what what?!?!?!!).

Antioxidants are essential to optimizing our health by combating free radicals that can damage cellular structures and DNA.

They’re also low on the glycemic indexwhen compared to other fruits – meaning that eating them will add sweetness to your day, and won’t spike your blood sugar (I often use them in green smoothies) – which will help keep you lean.

Other antioxidant-rich fruits that share some of the same benefits of blueberries include: blackberries, strawberries and cherries.

Tips: When blueberries are in season, buy them in abundance! Always keep a bag of frozen blueberries on hand too for protein shakes, and as a topping to pancakes.

Heres a recipe from Beachbody Blueberry banana oatmeal muffin

Melting the frozen berries produces a lovely “blueberry juice” that I use in place of syrup.

Buy organic whenever possible.

9621214_s2. Salmon

Along with being an excellent protein source, salmon is one of the best sources of essential Omega-3 fatty acids – in a form that is readily absorbed and utilized by our bodies.

We have to get our omega fats from food, because our bodies can’t make them on its own.

Unfortunately, many people are eating way too many Omega-6 fats each day (in processed foods, vegetable oils, corn and soy products), throwing off their Omega-6 to Omega-3 ratio (which ideally should be between 1:1 and 5:1 but has been found to be as high as 20:1 to 50:1 in most Americans).

Other omega-3 rich foods I include: olive oil, chia seeds, walnuts and whole, organic eggs – and I personally take a high-quality fish oil supplement daily to make sure I’m getting enough of the essentials. However, I don’t just get one off the shelf – because many fish oils have been shown to be contaminated with mercury, or aren’t formulated in a readily absorbable way. Always go with high quality , like found in the Beachbody Core Nutrition pack  that I use daily.

Best Tips: contamination from mercury, pesticides and other pollutants have become widespread issues, and may make you wary of purchasing even wild-caught fish. Wild Alaskan salmon seems to top the list of the lowest risk for contamination and greatest sustainability in practices.

According to the World’s Healthiest Foods, “Southeast Alaskan chum, sockeye, coho, pink, and chinook salmon, together with Kodiak coho, pink and chum salmon have all been evaluated for contaminant consumption risk involving many POPs (including dioxins, dioxin-like compounds (DLCs) and polychlorinated biphenyls, or PCBs) and have been found to be the lowest risk category of wild-caught salmon for regular consumption.”

3. Kale

Kale is a detoxifiers as it contains dietary fiber, and sulfur that promotes liver health. It’s rich in vitamin K, excellent for healthy bones and protective against various cancers.

Kale has plenty of folic acid and B6, which provide cardiovascular support and help prevent heart disease. It’s also a great source of Vitamin C, that powerful antioxidant that strengthens our immune system, prevents inflammation and helps us stay hydrated.

There are many different kale varieties (dark green dino kale, light green curly kale, dark red redbar kale, baby kale, flowering kamome red kale, red russian kale, walking stick kale, siberian kale and premier kale), and I recommend trying different kinds throughout the month to enjoy the spectrum of phytonutrients each variety provides. My local store carries about 3 different kinds typically.

Best Tips: I love sauteeing  Kale in a little olive oil and garlic & paired w eggs– and it’s great with a little sea salt and olive oil broiled for a few minutes into kale chips.

 

16342465_s4. Almonds

Another incredibly healthy fat source, almonds are high in healthy monounsaturated fats – the kind that help lower LDL cholesterol (LDL is the form of cholesterol that has been linked to atherosclerosis and heart disease).

A quarter cup of almonds contains 99mg of magnesium (24.7% of your recommended daily value) of magnesium – an important mineral that improves the flow of blood, nutrients and oxygen throughout the body.

Eating almonds can decrease after-meal rises in blood sugar, and provide antioxidants to soak up small amounts of free radicals (Jenkins DJ, Kendall CW, Journal of Nutrition).

Other nuts that contain high levels of health-protecting antioxidants include: walnuts, chestnuts and pecans. Peanuts, though technically a legume, also contain high levels of antioxidants.

Best’s Tip:  Enjoy almonds chopped up on my oatmeal, in a mixed greens salad or simply as a snack.

12596297_s5. Turmeric

Turmeric is a root that’s commonly used as a spice in Southeast Asia, but is available worldwide and gives mustard its yellow color.

It contains a powerful antioxidant calledcurcumin that has a spectrum of awesome health benefits.

Curcumin has been shown to help increase the flow of bile, an important component in the breakdown of dietary fat. Ayurvedic (the traditional medicine practice of India) practitioners have used it for its anti-bacterial and anti-inflammatory properties to treat arthritis and other ailments.

Researchers from the University of South Dakota have found that pre-treatment with curcumin makes cancer cells more vulnerable to chemo and radiotherapy, and epidemiologists hypothesize that the turmeric that is part of daily curries eaten in India may help explain the low rate of Alzheimer’s disease in that country. Among people aged 70 – 79, the rate is less than one-quarter that of the United States.

Other food sources that contain similar benefits include: ginger, a close cousin to turmeric.

Best Tip: The best way to harness the health benefits of turmeric is to get turmeric powder or the root itself. I love including it in my curry dishes and stir-fries, and it makes a regular appearance in my kitchen alongside ginger.

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There are so many, many more health-promoting whole foods that I would classify as super – including:

avocados, cacao nibs, dark chocolate, walnuts, bok choy, raspberries, ginger, spinach, kiwi, eggs,  sweet potatoes, grass fed bison, chia seeds, hemp seeds, acai, goji berries, sprouted mung beans, natto, green tea, broccoli, black strap molasses, cod, pomegranate, peppermint – and so many more – 

Which ones do you include?

I bet you’re already eating some, or all of them! If there’s one you haven’t had lately, be sure to look for it at your local grocery store or farmer’s market, and if there is a food you’d like to know more about be sure to write me a comment and let me know!

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Are Giants taunting you? Are you Slaying or shivering?

I joined a virtual prayer writing group a couple weeks ago. Prayer writing group? What? Ya’ll just sitting around writing prayers…why? Well, it’s to get my mind right! It’s not exactly a Bible study but we do get into the Bible. It is creating habits of reading scripture, processing it and then being a mindful prayerfilled servant. 

What is Prayer? It’s really just the language you use when you talk to God. In some practices is very formal and repetitive and structured, some may even say rehearsed, habitual not heartfelt. In this form, it is structured but not rehearsed we P R A Y…praise, repent, another (pray for others) Yourself. I like this way of thinking bc, I sometimes just act like God is My servant. Ya know, God i need, I want, I wish, why didn’t you do this, why did you do that, get me this, fulfill me that…ya know what I’m saying? I was feeling a lot selfish in my prayer life 

And I was struggling with finding time to Pray, devote, schedule my mindful time…I was failing bc I wasn’t making it a priority. SO, I prayed. God help me surround myself with ladies that are on similar paths that I can commune with and share my Love & understanding of God with. I asked for it…and I found it!  

I was also hearing that the more your fill your cup with goodness first thing in the morning, the less bad things could penetrate my being as the day went on. And I was kinda gettting angry a lot! So, I prayed for more structure and guidance and less distractions and loss of time. And this was answered too. 

And I needed this to be more M-F than weekends, my schedule is much less mine on the weekends…you know it, that was answered too! 

The prayer writing group releases a Verse 5a Daily,  M-F! The goal, a quick glance in the FB group, then get that Bible open, mark the pages, fill my mind with Promises from God, pray and breath deep. I also have found a couple podcasts and another daily verse book. It has become my routine. Wake up, put on earbuds, listen to podcasts (while I wander around the house waking up, cleaning, getting organized), get my 2 verses that often lead to chapters in the Bible, write in my prayer journal, check back in the Fb group to share some of my lessons, write a blog, check in with my Smartlifejournal, brain dump, organized, prioritized and Start my day clear, full of goodness and affirmations, and focused. All of this happens before 10/11am. 

***sidenote: Remember: I’m my on boss, I own my own business(es) so my hours & availabilty are  different than many. One of my biggest goals when becoming and entrepreneur was to control my hours, schedule, LIFE. I dont really like being told what when where or how to do.  I kinda feel like I’m unemployable. I’m a great employee but my biggest FLAW…you want me on time? Another story for another time****

This week our focus is Fear…the other F word ( as my friend Mindy Lawhorne calls it) And remember I’m using 3-4 sources of spiritual references. Not one is connected to the other, (except God) some are current, some are older…but they are all talking about Fear & conquering it. Is that possible? Ummm…when you are talking about God, all things are possible!

It’s weird, the more we study Fear the more, I really can’t understand why I’m afraid? 

Yesterday, I reheard the story of David & Goliath….you know the little stinky hairy red headed Shepard boy, bringing food to his brothers, who protects only Sheep 🐑 with a little slingshot & all the strength of God, killed that Giant in 1 swift throw! Bc he said & believed If God is with me who can beat me? 

All the men of the Army including davids brothers were terrified of this Giant, running from the daily taunts from that Beast…Not this Boy, no armor, no massive weapon just some sticks & a stone & the strength of God did what a thousand soldiers dared not do! 

That my friends, is Fearless living! And dang, a little boy slayed a giant Bc he Knew God would not fail him in this war! David KNEW that God already declared Victory so what’s the Problem.   People…do you hear? No fear or Giant is bigger or badder or stronger than our God! Amen!!! 

And that’s one of MANY promises. He’s got you, He will go before you and He will stand on all sides of you. You are protected. 

Does that mean nothing bad will happen…no. But whatever happens You will be Victorious! Sometimes “bad” things happen for us, not to us. They are crucial lessons that will lead us to our purpose. God does allow things to happen, but He never leaves us. He wants us to CLING to his promises. He always protects us. Do you ever think, that was bad but it could be worse… IT could be. But God stopped the worse! And your victory is on the other side of all that pain and FEAR and anger. He’s got shoulders strong enough for all your burdens. Turn to Him, PRAY. Sometimes, that Prayer isn’t going to be full of love and praise. And God can handle it! God, I dont know why you put me through THIS, This is bullshit, I don’t know why you allowed violence or murder or sickness or death and I’m angry. I’m mad at you, but I need you, GOD …I promise to praise your name and sing your praises WHEN you bring me through! 

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Don’t ask, Don’t tell… 

Don’t ask, not tell. It sort of has a whole new meaning, these days 

Have you ever heard of it? Do you know who this policy protected? What genius came up with this brilliant idea? Did it work? 

Well, we have to go back to 1993, prior to that when a man or woman that has announced or were caught in a same sex relationship, they were not permitted to serve in the US military. It was thought they were weak, mentally disturbed, unstable, a threat. They could even be court marshaled & imprisoned, if caught engaging in this behavior as active duty soldier. 

 Then President Bill Clinton, decided that if the LGBTQ community (it wasn’t called that) would just keep it to themselves, it would no longer be an issue. If they would keep their beliefs to themselves, like Nobody ask and you promised to keep what you do in your home your business, then the US military, could USE that  Gay person to serve our country in peace and  battle!  I’m serious! 

This policy wasn’t just military, it became the norm for all industries. No flaming queens running around in dresses, no manly females wearing suits, ties, work boots, or short hair. (Those were the stereotypes) THERE WAS NO TOLERANCE for anything out of the NORM…which became the real question. What is normal?  Good question, huh? Well, I think, in the LGBTQ community the lines of normal are still being defined. ((And that’s a whole other post) 

“Dont ask, dont tell” was the DUMBEST policy ever. It didnt work!  It wasn’t fair, it didnt promote equality, it didnt promote peace or understanding. It was eventually revoked. 

Today, LGBTQ community is welcome to serve their country, adopt childeren, get married, share insurance benefits, be open and who ever they feel they were meant to be. Almost anything, goes. 

But that didn’t solve the issues either… We still deal with finding tolerance, equality, peace and understanding in our communities.  There are still people being oppressed, stifled, told to mind their business. Keep their Love to themselves, to hide how they truly feel. They can feel and act anyway they want but they are not allowed to practice or preach their beliefs in public. 

There are a few people that dont agree with them and they have become the blowhorn of hate.  

What is this Injustice I speak of? Well, its sealing about God. What? Who? Isn’t God the root of real problem? (Well I can go on  a tangent here… Jesus preached LOVE, Tolerance, equality, forgiveness, instructed us to love the unloveable, not to hate, not to exclude, he found himself amongst the sinners and the sickly more than with the righteous, kind and loveable. 

Back to the injustice: I’m not allowed to talk about, praise, worship or speak the truth of the Bible in public.  Its not apropriate for me to be flamborant in my Love of God. It may offend someone. They may not understand, they may feel uneasy bc they dont act my way, they may not believe what i believe. They may believe in someone or something else. And they have the right to share that with the world!

Today, our military, government, and communities have a whole new Dont ask, dont tell policy. It still doesn’t promote equality, peace, understanding… what don’t people want to know about? That You believe in GOD (what’s wrong with you? You’re probably one of those crazy BACs (born again christians), Bible banging, judgements, self righteous, over the top perfect types. There is no proof this Jesus existed and God created the Heaven and Earth and everything in between, you’re a radical and I just dont want to hear your rubbish anymore! #tolerance​

But if you believe in anything or anyone else, its all good. We dont want to offend other choices…But if you’re a Christian…nobody wants to hear about it. Nobody wants your kind around. Just mind your beliefs in your own home. Nobody wants to hear or see anything that has to do with God.  people of faith are just a bunch of mislead folks that have had the floor for way too long. As long as they don’t say anything, we wont ask and we wont be bothered by it. What? #AMIALONE  I believe that other religions are much more tolerable in public than Chriatianity… WHY?  

I dont have the answers. Other than, we, as Christians have let the minority rule. We have gotten quiet bc we believe it’s unfair to infect others with our beliefs. We dont want to push ourselves on non believers…WHY? I ask again, why? Is there not enough room in heaven? Are we the judge & jury of who gets in and who doesn’t? Those that had to stifle their love life fought hard to live out loud in the open. They fought hard to be EQUAL. They still fight to be heard bc they believe their way is the way of the truth! 

And maybe that’s the problem…do Christian’s really know what they believe. Bc if you did, you couldn’t shut up about it. I’m serious! The promises of God are so freaking amazing that you want to speak it from the highest mountains. Maybe we all have gotten so far from knowing what we believe that we are willing to be silenced bc we aren’t sure what we believe is TRUTH. Or maybe we are so afraid to not have all the answers that we’d rather not bring up the subject bc all the religious lines have been set in stone and they are so rigid and nothing is new… REALLY? I believe God has the same message from the beginning ,but how we define Love has changed. And what was Normal in religion is constantly being defined. 
All I want to say Is: I’m coming out of the CLoset. 

I believe in God, He is the only way to  everlasting life. I believe my time on this earth is  a temporary layover to the promised land. I have a responsabilty to share that with the world. If you don’t agree, That’s ok. I want to hear what you have to say, as long as you’re willing to listen to mine. Tolerance, equality, understanding, peace and LOVE. Most of all God is love, and if that’s the only thing I can convince you of then I did my job. I speak from my heart and from a place of pure peace. Most of my words aren’t even mine..I dont know how they flow from me. #devineintervention. 
Thoughts? Comments? Emotions? Anything? Come on, I’m strong enough to handle what you got to say. 

Do you believe it is God that is the new problem in town? Do you think its ironic that some religious speakers have great angst to a growing LGBTQ community and it is the Church that is suffering? I do and I dont.  

I believe that God is the creator of all things good and bad, He created each of us uniquely and by hand. He counted every hair on our head, then he certainly created people to love one another.

 I don’t believe gender is the issue. Yes, the Bible does have a passage that says 2 men should not lay together. And another that says due to your sins your women will lay with each other. (Paraphrasing) And that is a punishment and sinful. But that was a different time. it was to punish the sinners, to kill off the offenders of the word. And it was before Jesus.   I just had to add this…I promise, I will go into detail in another post about this. 

But for now…I’m out of the closet. I am going to be flamboyant for God. I’m going to talk about Him publicly, And if you dont like it…its ok. I love you but I wont let your uncomfortable nature stop me from pursuing my creator! 

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How’s your Faith

I can remember the first time someone asked me that…

 I was in the “mall” in Defiance, this girl (about my age) and an older man approached me and asked me “Do you believe in God” It kinda freaked me out, and I totally had no idea what she was asking me…Of course, I believed in GOD.  (Let me explain…I didnt know there was anything but God. I only knew there were Catholics, Lutherans, Methodist. And those crazy arm raising peeps. I grew up in a small town, we didnt have internet, my exposure was small. Toledo was the biggest city I knew, LOL

ANYWAY, this girl started asking me something about a relationship and a few other deep questions… I dont remember exactly. What I DO remember is I felt angry, scared, confused…wasn’t my belief in GOD enough. #duh (I’m humored by that statement now) I kept saying, I believe that to  private, thats really nobody’s business, I’m not discussing this with you. I felt challenged and angry and STUPID, I realized I didnt like not knowing something, I didnt like feeling duped…a relationship w God. I mean, I had been going to church, I knew God, I knew what U believed…didnt I? And who did she think she was, I never her saw her before or after, I didnt know her. That’s something in my heart and its noones business…

Its been MANY years since that encounter.. I haven’t thought of that moment since, but it came to mind when I heard a word or two in my devotions. You see, Ive come a long way since that day. I almost believe that was a missed opportunity to move forward in my Faith. And I’m grateful, God never gave up on me. He kept coming at me, He kept sending Godly people into my life and many of those encounters ended the same way. I didnt get them, they were prying into my hard heart. If there was a God, well he skipped some of my blessings. I mean, if He was all good…He will never love me, I wasn’t all good. I come from some dirty living. But thats not how it works… Thank God! 

So, my question was How’s your Faith? I’m not asking to challenge you. I’m not trying to pry in to your personal relationship…I just want to share that since I realized I needed a relationship with Christ, my life has gotten a whole lot clearer and lot less angry. (Most of the time) 

I am not perfect, but I can see my progress. I also realize, PERFECTION is impossible. I dont get angry when I dont know or do wrong, I now realize Its an opportunity to learn or reflect! 

Am I alone? Did you feel angry when you read that or did you feel a need to reflect? 

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New Year, New You…it’s not too late to start today! 

Hey yo! Happy New Year…this week I started a new Fitness schedule. I decided that Chalean Extreme and Piyo would be a great hybrid action! I really need to lift some weights. I also need to increase endurance, strength and flexibility! I have the All Access pass to the Beachbody on Demand feature, so I put a little hybrid calendar together. 

Whats my number one goal? Its really 2, increased strength and flexibility  Yep, strength and flexibility! They kind if go hand in hand. Did you know that you have a greater strength potential when your muscles are flexible?

 And, Ive noticed that Im achey a lot more than I used to be. I also have been taking a lot more interest in the Health of the Seniors, the elderly. Well, I don’t like what Ive seen. I realize, I want to live a longer stronger healthier more productive and fun filled life… It begins by not losing all that I have gained. What? Yeah, we have amazing amounts of muscles when are younger. As we age, especially as we close in on the hated MENOPAUSE…when we lose strength and muscle we also begin to reduce our bone density. Im already clutzy, I dont need to add fragile to that! And thats not all…as we reduce our movement (we sit more now compared to our childhood!) our Cardio health decreases. UMMM, thats a muscle that needs to work hard…harder if we are heavier. We end up stressing that muscle by not working it properly. Walking to that bathroom or the kitchen should not get you out of breath! 

And what about your Pulminary system! Umm, heavy breathing during exercise beats a damn nebulizer or asthma treatment or COPD or whatever else may cause you to have Oxygen pumped into your body when you’re old. 

Im on a roll today! Im done with the Hey gang, lets form a circle, sing a pretty little happy song and ignore the reality of the situation! We, me included need to take a look in the mirror. Look at the scale, take those blood tests, doctor exams, get hormone levels checked, whatever you need to determine your level Health. (And being on fewer medications than your neighbor does not mean you are healthier! It’s not a competition, therefore it is not a comparison game, You are a unique. Figure out YOUR health factors. 
Im not talking about pant size, but that does have something to do with it! A skinny body is easy fix, right? …starve yourself, over exercise & be miserable! A healthy body takes a whole different level of work, commitment, discipline, and focus.

 Healthy saves your life! In general, a healthy person is more in tune with their body. They know when something is just a little off… a little off, can actually be a trigger to see something thats really off. For example, my friends dad…exercises daily, watches what he eats, walks, golfs etc…had a pain in his ear, but not an ear infection. An ultra sound of the carotid, lead to a discovery of a murmur, that turned out to be 2 full blocked arteries and 1 partial, they also discovered damage from a previously minor heart attack which damaged a 4th artery…He ended up w a quadruple bypass. 

He had an ear ache! Whats the point, Hol? A healthy person doesnt hurt every day, they dont have constant aches and pains…they can feel something is WRONG. Had this man not been in such good shape, his heart would have stopped a long time before this. 
Please…take a look at all youre missing when you skip making your health your priority! 

#truth #gettingreal #lifeisprecious #liveit #Journeytoforeverfit #fithasnodestination #desdtinationVictory  #livelongerstrongerhealthiermoreproductiveandfunfilled #exercise #workout #behealthy #

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It’s not time to Party! 

YCE Chronicles Day 8

Mon: 

730 wake up + Fb, email, bank, bathroom time, 

830 out the door 

9-1030 client

1030-11 drive & listen 

11-12 workout/shower/Heath bet challenge 

12-1230 drive & Listen 

1230-130 Client

130-2 10 D.C. + BB Contacts, 

2-6 uber drive & listen 

6-8 WORDPRESS SELF HOSTED 

8-9 blog post 

Good morning!!! Eyes open 2mins before alarm. Rested…right? What now?! I laid in bed until 745 scrolling my phone…examine sleep app, banking app (where is that deposit?) No worries..,it’ll work out. Bathroom…emails, unsubscribe, delete & deactivate account (I’ve never earned a client) get dressed, wrap that gift…where’s the tape? Idk?! Dang it…that needs organized! Move on gf…you’ll get to that!
  Out the door, warm up the car…damn it needs a jump again…alternator? Grab my stuff, on the road, turn on the radio: Grace in marriage. (God is a funny one!) running a few minutes behind…all is good, I needed to hear this msg (I’ll go back later to relisten is on again at 2!) 

Smiling clients make me Happy! In & out. Home…well, my tire is low, need air. Hope that fixes it…not going to get that workout done before next client! I’ll just clean the kitchen…Good, productive, needs done! 

1201, out the door! Listen to How to raise financial fit children (or something like that, I’ll add the direct link) Umm…genius! This woman is brilliant! I am & know many financially impaired adults that could use a child’s lesson to help them figure out their own financial troubles. Whoa #mindblown #teachababethe waysoftheLord 

1230 Client…she cracks me up. She has disabilities but she is not disabled. She hasn’t walked since she was 4yo & that’s never stopped we from reaching the highest mountains, if she decides that’s where she wants to go. I am beyond grateful for her. We’ve been together since 2004/5ish. Yeah… a long time. I was sharing a story about another appt, we laughed and she said…you have the weirdest clients. Yep…and I love everyone of them, quirks and all! 
145 I’m hungry, folks. I got to get my self some foods while I listen to Grace Filled Marriage. (Forgiveness security approval intimacy) 
  Well…1st this man was talking about a french braid, it looks like 2 pieces of hair woven together but it’s actually 3. And it made him think…A marriage looks like 2 people woven together but to make it beautiful it needs the 3rd piece seamlessly woven. What or who is that 3rd piec …God & His grace. 

A successful marriage is based on more than Love…in fact, Grace should sit at a higher place than even Love. 
What does Grace look like? 
How does God treat you when you disappoint him? Does he condemn, name call, stew, pout, ignore, silent treatment.., no He executes Grace! 
1 Corinthians 5:17
330-7 Uber: I couldn’t wait to listen to Pastor Tony Evans…this is a series about Detours. Prep, Purpose, Proof…they are from God! And today was no disappointment. 
Dad & dtr, Steeler fans frm Rhode Island, Westin William Penn to airport.

Lady w groceries, north side Giant Eagle to Troy Hill, 

Cpl of Asian students, Strip (Asian Market) to Shadyside 

Girl from strip to Cork Factory apts

Biz guy, flew in this am, still had his carry on , Isabella to Dbl Tree

Hispanic cpl, Ivory to Ross Park Mall 

7p Now what? I shld be headed to Kohls & post office, I need to deposit some money, do I need to go for groceries, I’m hungry, no food at home, that WordPress self hosting thing…but my brain is fried. 

 What to do, what to do. (Side note, stomach is grumbling… going anywhere but home might be my only option!) 
730: skip the stores, bank & straight home, order delivery…groceries can wait til morning, 
830 Head is pounding, stomach is grumbling…not going to be a good night. #theseguts #glutensensitive #glutenfilledbrownies #stillLearning #gutproblems 

This blog, may be the end of my work day. Except, I need a workout schedule…Piyo 3 days, CLX 3 days, 1 personal Turbokick day 

What’s on for tomorrow: 

1. Self Host my WordPress site, its semi in place, finish it

2. Resume 

3. 2 My Fierce Clarity, Bubble worksheets 

4. Write scheduled posts…

5. 10 Bb & 10 DC contacts 

6. Uber $ goal 100/5hrs  

7. Workout 

8. Video edits/MacBook iCloud dump 

9. CDF results 

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How do we practice patience in moments of conflict.

Over the past 9 years, I have found strength in my Faith. I have always believed there was a higher power, I kinda understood the Trinity, but I didnt understand the Living Word, grace, mercy or a relationship w Christ was even possible let alone rewarding invitation. I saw the rules as restrictions not guidelines, expectations or boundaries. I have really changed my focus. I used to think I was in charge and it was all up to me! Now, I turn to Him. Ive been training my ears to listen when God speaks. And when you train your ears to hear, the Lord has lots to tell you! I have been studying the Word and asking for guidance so I can be pleasing to the Lord. I have a past, that’s not all too pretty, and if I didn’t understand the grace of God, I would feel so lost and useless. But there is proof in  the Bible that some of Gods greatest warriors were broken and mistake makers too! They had pasts full of sin, yet God used them. How awesome is that!? 
I find God everywhere, and He uses many situations and people to speak to me! Recently, my lessons were about Patience. It’s a huge struggle of mine…I’m not the most patient person, with family and other people I love. This particular lesson went on for a couple days…He was really pounding Patience down my throat…funny how the training begins long before the trial.

 How do we practice patience in moments of conflict.

Easier said than done, but we are directed to 

Remain quiet when verbally attacked,    Respond in prayer “God open their eyes, I’m falsely accused…” Don’t focus on the negative, don’t condemn them…Pray for them

Remain quiet…control your thoughts. You can’t focus on who they are…you will end up saying something you can’t take back. Focus on God…talk to him. 

Control emotions. Walk in a manner worthy of your calling. Holy Spirit living on the inside. 
Refrain from forcing our opinion. You can’t persuade stupid, silly, stubborn!
Be willing to listen without responding. Do not turn them off or tune them out. Just LISTEN. Don’t ignore. 

Parents: sometimes people (your kids) need to vent to people (you, their parents) that love them. Sometimes they are so full of something (frustration, hurt, hormones, etc)  that you need to let them get it out. Yes, that vile poison stings, its foul, profane & disrespectful sometimes…but its better out, to the ears of a safe adult,  the person that can discern its not personal…its steam. And sometimes your kiddos just need to blow!  

As adults…we may not have that safe place/person in the physical world but You have a right to say what ever you want to your Father. You cld skip the vent to God…you could try to correct & teach the folks that wronged you, falsely accused you, hurt you, pissed you off. Even if they are right or wrong…they aren’t ready to be accused by you! Your Father is here. He’s strong enough to handle all the nasty you got to say! No judgement. No hurt. No long term scars. 

Even if they Deserve to hear about themselves…

You always win by not responding 

Don’t be quarrelsome, be kind, patient, so encouraging, so positive. The strength of your testimony gets stronger & stronger. 

Psalm 27:14 let your heart take courage…Be patient 

Do not fret 

These are lessons, I’m still learning. I’m being put through boot camp regulary, it’s not actually getting easier, but I’m getting out of the negative space quicker. Heck, just this morning…I was filled with poison. It’s the same disappointment, the same issue I struggle with regularly. I was reminded that Grace and patience are most important. I removed myself from the situation, I stayed away. I shut my mouth. However, I did not open my ears to hear nor did I have an forgiveness, grace or mercy in my heart. But I was convicted and reminded…I have to do better. I have to try harder, I have to react in love, kindness, Grace, love, respect. Just as God responds to me when I disappoint HIM.You’d think, I’d be past this…the testing would stop… 

It’s in His timing, not ours.

Don’t be impatient for the act. In due season, He will bless you with every blessing 

Psalm 40:1 
Psalm 25:1 He is never too late. When we are patient we have the favor of God. 

Be patient 

Learn to be patient. We learn patience by WAITING. WORTHY OF THE CALLING, which we are. We will see a testimony of God

Pls give me one more chance, He knows we aren’t going to follow thru. He sees our weakness. If He is that patient w us, do we have the right to be impatient w them, the ones you love, the ones that love you, the ones that disapoint you. 

Give all your worries & cares to the Lord 1peter??  When you invite worry in, Faith leaves. When we take on the burden of worry, its an action of doubting that God has got it all handeled. And if that is true, what use is worry. Your worry wont change anything.  But that doesn’t mean Fear and worry wont show up… what then?  

Pray instead of Panic, Tell God your needs… if it’s not worth praying about, it’s not worth worrying about. It may be beyond your control but trust and believe nothing is out of Gods control. What do you pray? “Your promises are true, I trust you to take care of all my needs financial, relational, family, vocational, all your worries…(insert your need) 

Why me, why this, why now…WHY?

God says, I needed to take you through to take you To. Its a reminder of His mighty power. It’s to strengthen your Faith, your response time. And the perfect response, in all things…good and bad, trials and victories…Give them to God. It’s about your future welfare, your only salvation is in the LORD.
Don’t sit back & gripe about your situations. Fussing cussing & complaining blaming other folk for your situation, Ummm…stop blaming and keeping score. They have been USED by God.  God said, It was ME,  I SENT YOU into exile…I may have used those situations or ppl to do it. 

Now what? Wait? How long? What’s the plan? 

Welfare/wellbeing while your waiting for your blessing, BE A BLESSING, while your waiting for your Delivery, be a deliverer. Use it as an opportunity to share with others, it’s is more blessing to give than to receive! 

Do you remember the story of  Cinderella? She was treated as the help, she just wanted to go to the ball, like her step sisters. Then one day, her fairy God mother showed up … wld you like to go to the ball. She was transformed into a beautiful creature. She thought, her prayers had been answered. She was going to the ball, she met the Prince, her life was going to be MAGICAL. Then the cloc strikes midnite and BAM, she’s gone from Riches to wrags!  Back to her slave days, a night of fun but the party is over. As soon as she thought she got what looking for it’s Midnite. She wound up back where she came from…hard work, loneliness. But something was different. She had HOPE. Her perspective changed. The work didn’t change but her mind changed.  She knew in heart that someday her Prince would come… she did all her chores and dirty work with joy bc she knew things were going to change. She was going to be a Princess and she will never treat her servants the way she was treated! Her heart was full. She knew without a doubt her wildest dreams would comes true!

Well…you my sweet, may be in a situation where you are being used abused, forgotten, left at home, no party invitations either! And someday, your prayers will be answered… someday Our Prince will return! Its no accident that we worship the King of Kings, we are in His Kingdom, He is our Hope, through His love and grace, we too will become a Princess or Prince under Him. We too shall enjoy our days of chores with joy and delight, we should have hope that things will be better than our wildest dreams! One day the Prince of prince found me…He says you can go through these things with a smile. Bc he looking for you! He’s got a goal for you. 

Somethings are worth the wait Bc God is up to something Great! 
Do you believe? I do. And even in this season of trials, I turn to Him and trust in Him. I know He has something amazing planned for me. But if I don’t deal with these in small ways, I will never be ready to handle it in LARGE ways. 

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